Self Serving Bias

This is straight from Wikipedia:"The self-serving bias is people's tendency to attribute positive events to their own character but attribute negative events to external factors. It's a common type of cognitive bias that has been extensively studied in social psychology." I posted to this so that people could be aware of this fact, but this does not mean "external factors" never play a role. It just that people do this unconsciously. 

Funny Gift

One day, one of my friends got married without any prior notice. They needed witness, so we were there. They hired small catering hall, it was all impromptu. So, we didn't have enough time to buy a proper gift for him. So, I and my friend gave him two condoms, one from each, which we were carrying in our pockets. I told him, "The population is at seven billion. This is the only way I could control the earth's population". The other guy said, he just wanted him to be prepared. It was funny. 

Don't Try To Make It Look Like Only Your Would Be Partner Is Initiating The Approach

In the beginning of relationship people, both men and women, try to make it look like one side came onto the other. They think it makes them look "good" in people's eye, but it makes your would be  partner not trust you, stops the person from taking anymore initiative. You have to care about your would be partner's reputation too.

Being Reminded Of Your Ex Can Be Torturous

Seeing your ex or if you are remind of your ex with whom you have had a painful break actually tortures you mentally, pokes the same part of the brain where you feel pain.

Why You Eject Yourself From The Conversation

If you eject yourself from a conversation while talking to a member of the other sex aka the opposite sex, you are insecure. 

What Does It Mean If You Feel Guilty For Wanting Sex

If you feel guilty for wanting sex, if you feel like you are doing something "wrong" by wanting sex, that means you are insecure about your look. However, this is not the only reason.

What Happens When You Are Insecure

If you are insecure, you can't make the right move even if you want to. For example, if a person tells you "You look good", you would go like, "But do you really like me" or something like that. A secure person knows everyone likes him or her.

People Are Not Crazy Or Sane Or Stupid

People are not crazy or sane or stupid, it is the brain chemistry they have, they are born with, or which they  acquired because of life experience. Don't call people crazy or stupid. Sometimes it is inhuman. Sometimes they are not responsible for their brain chemistry.

Don't Say People Are Bad

If you think other people are bad, it actually triggers anger in your and makes you behave badly towards them. It's an unconscious process. It is an involuntary process. You actually hurt yourself by doing this. 

The Human Mind Requires Pleasure

The human mind always needs an opiate.

Insecurity Makes You Forget

Insecurity makes you forget how stupid people are or that people have it worse than you. If you are insecure, you are going to forget that the woman is as good or as bad as you are. Insecurity makes you date any woman who has no life, who is in worse shape than you are. It might be that girl don't think you are in bad shape, you yourself think that from the way she behaves with you or even before that. Insecurity makes you think the girl is better than you. Always remember, no matter how pretty the girl is, she's just a human like you. Plus, women don't like the guy who doesn't believe he himself is a catch. Your lifestyle, your body language have to show you think yourself as something big. You have to make that your reality, then she will automatically think you are something big. She thinks what you think, what you convey. 

One Of The Reasons Why People Have Sex

People have sex to go up the social ladder. People don't realize it because it is unconscious. If I were to say a hooker has sex for money because money begets social status, would I be wrong? This is not the only act of gaining social status that people do. For example, arranged marriage is directly related to social status. So is non-arranged marriage. This is true for both men and women on some level. 

What Makes People Promiscuous

If a person is insecure he/she becomes promiscuous for ego validation. He/she starts to have sex with many people for approval. But don't think I am labelling you for this. To be insecure is to be human. However, to be insecure perpetually and to be promiscuous perpetually is also wrong. What I am saying is you have to learn how to be secure or achieve that mental state by doing some inner-mind work.

Why People Flirt Even After Marriage

Sex is directly related to ego. Because people are insecure, they feel like they need validation from others. So, they can't stop flirting with people even after marriage, even after they have a partner.

How To Be Good In Bed

Sex is more psychological than people realize. We all heard the saying "Mind is the biggest sex organ". This actually, at least partially,  means how you make the person feel  mentally  is what determines how good the sex is going to be. To be more specific how you make the person feel emotionally. By having sex with the right person, you can feel empowered, recharged. To be "good in bed" is purely psychological. Sexual satisfaction is mental satisfaction before the physical act. Sex is ego validation. You have to satisfy the person's ego to satisfy the person sexually. It's how much you respect the person.

A person can look "not so good" but can be real good in bed. For example, if a guy is a rock star but doesn't look so "good", the woman he's having sex would still find the sex real good because of his status, because of his stardom. It has more to do with how you make the person feel when you are around that person. When the person is around you,  do you feel excited, happy or annoyed, bored is what determines how good the sex is going to be. If a person is funny and has his life together, he can make his partner more happy even if he doesn't look good. If a person has his life together, he/she can make his/her partner more happy in bed, than a person who doesn't.

Lot of people also have the mindset, "What I am getting from by having sex with this person". For example lots of men think, "If she cooks for me, she does the laundry, she takes care  of my kids, if she packs my lunch for me, if she does this and that, she's is a 'good wife', so having sex with her is fun". Many women think, "If he can provide me my life necessities, good at his job, buys me jewelry, if he doesn't cheat on me, he's a 'good husband', so I am going to satisfy him in bed". In both cases, how both sides satisfy each other's material needs determines how good the sex is. In other words, what's my motivation for having sex?

In some of my past relationships, many times, when I was happy when  other women came onto me, my then girlfriends wouldn't be so nice in bed because they got a little jealous. Or sometimes when I was mean to them, they weren't as nice as usual. Another time, my then girlfriend was mean to me, I actually made her pay fifty bucks to tame me. In another occasion, when an ex cooked for me, took me to a nice restaurant, I was very nice to her. So, it's how good you make a person  feel emotionally, determines how good you are in bed. Remember sex is in the emotional brain as much as it is in the animal brain, the  R-complex. It is what you do before sex all day long, it's how you treat the person trigger his/ her emotional circuitry of love, how much you satisfy that person's ego determines how good the sex is going to be.You have to let the person know that you like the person before the person's physical need is met. If the person doesn't feel good about himself/herself, know that you appreciate him/her for who he/she is, he/she is not going to enjoy sex with you. The person has to feel appreciated.  So, sex is just not about look, it's your status, your lifestyle, how you make the person feel emotionally, it's your whole life, what the person is getting from you by having sex, and how you make the person feel when you are around the person.

What Happens When You Have An Orgasm

When you have an orgasm, your body releases endorphin, that is why you feel good.Endorphin neurochemical occurring naturally in the brain and having analgesic properties. Endorphin injection is given to women when they give birth to reduce pain.

Trust Me Guys, This Line Works

I once said to a girl I am going to tell another girl that I have never seen her with her hair open. The one I said it to got jealous, and the one I used it on got enamored with me. 

It Is Not Just A Word

Love is just not a word. It is a commitment, sometimes for a lifetime, sometimes stronger than marriage when there is strong feelings involved. You shouldn't use it without understanding other person's feelings or where the person is emotionally. It could hurt the person who is saying it, also could hurt the person who is being said to.

Where Does Insecurity Come From

If nothing is going right in your life, you are not going to be good with women either because the failures, negativity, bad experiences stay in your mind. Your reality becomes a reality that you can't accept. Therefore, you can't be confidence. You need to change your life before you want to be good with women.

Where Does Altruism Come From

Altruism is unconscious and it is directly related to our superego. If you are too altruistic that actually means you want to be a superstar.

What Does Depression Means

Depression means you are at odd with the world, your mind can't accept your reality. 

Casual Sex Is Not Casual Sex

Be careful if you do casual sex, non romantic sex. If you do it long enough you might actually fall in love. You body might get "locked" with your sex partner. Sex might the trigger emotional circitury  and can cause the hormones to run through your body. 

Sex Drive Might Be Related To Your Social Status

Most people in power position have high sex drive because when in power your dopamine level gets high. If people have low status, they might have a low sex drive.

Why People Are Mean

If you are mean and cannot be nice, that means you are in lot of stress or suffering from severe depression. Life squished the love out of you, it is not your fault, you are a victim.

Don't Judge This Type Of Person

If a person is always approaching women, always hitting on women, that doesn't mean he's lecherous. That means he's lonely, lack love in love. Also, he might not be feel like his life is complete, so he's trying to feel the void. Some people feel unloved. Those people usually follow any path that enables them to get some of the love they need. Without realizing the reason those people can become sex addicts who try to have sex with anyone they encounter.Don't judge this type of people because they are doing it for companion, not because they are too sexual. It might be that they need to make their social circle bigger or make more friends and spend time with them. This is true for both gender. The worst thing you could do to them is call them "whores" or something to that effect. 

Why People Don't Want To Get Married

There are lots of people who don't want to get married or don't want to commit because they have never got the proper loving and caring from the other sex aka the opposite sex. They can't trust the other sex aka the other sex. This might result from being raised by a single parent, lack of social life, hormones, depression distrust in people, not being loved by people, being antisocial and lack of social status. Getting love and support from the other sex can cure this. 

What Does It Mean When Someone Cheats On You

This is not always true, but many times it is. Many times, if a person cheats on you that means, you can't satisfy that person's emotional need. This does not mean you are going to use it justify cheating. If you feel like someone is not there for you emotionally, you are going to end it, but not cheat. 

What Does The Right One Mean

When people say they are looking for the right one, they actually mean they are looking for someone who share the same dreams, they are looking for themselves. This is little different from looking for the same personality type. This actually means people want the one who share the same dreams and people think if the person share the same dreams they would help them. Otherwise they won't help, and as a result they won't be compatible. You can actually make someone fall for you by telling the person you have the same dreams.

Why You Hate The Other Sex

If you hate the other sex aka the opposite sex, that means you don't have enough positive energy of that sex. It could also be your brain chemistry.

At This State Of Mind You Can't Really Love

When you are suffering from severe depression, because of your brain chemistry, even if you have feelings for someone, you can't really love anyone because you yourself lack the love. Your emotional void, not getting enough love, make you emotionally needy. At that state of mind, you need love more than anyone else. I am not saying it is your fault, your are the victim.

Who Survives The Most

"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change."---Charles Darwin.

How To Balance Physical Energy

Make sure you are burning as much energy as you are saving by resting in your body. If you don't burn enough energy, your rest won't be completed. You might be fatigued if you don't do this because your energy would be out of whack.

Which Part Of Brain Is Used When A Man Hears The Female Voice

Some suggest when a man listens to the female voice the music part of the brain is used. Others suggest when a man listen to the female voice the sex part of the brain. Lord, I hope it's the sex part!

Too Much Knowledge Can Also Create A Big Ego

If you are too knowledgeable, that can also give you a big ego. Gaining knowledge, skill can give you sense of achievement. You may condescend to people without realizing. 

Almost Got In Trouble!

I saw this bombshell at a place in Manhattan. I approached her, asked her, "What's your name? She replied with "I am girlfriend of him" pointing to  a burly man. The muscular man was not looking at us. So I went up to him and asked, "What protein do you take to build such good muscles?", to divert the attention of the girl so that the girl won't say anything to him.  I knew he used some hormone or steroid to look like that. To save his face he said, "Chicken". So, the girl thought we were discussing something important.  I got in no trouble!Nothing bad happened. 

The Mind Cannot Work On More Than One Variable

Our mind cannot solve more than one problem at a time. That is why when we write  or type, we make many mistakes because our mind is busy solving many problems. So, it cannot always focus on the writing or typing. It has to come back to the writing, unless it is our second nature. This applies everywhere in life. That is why "To err is human" is used so much. 

Women Have More Fat

According to some researches, women have more body fat percentage than men. There are biological factors that cause this. Here is a supporting article.

It Might Not Be Justified In Your Mind

Sometimes you might have strong feelings for someone, you might be in love with someone, but your might not be able to justify to yourself to move forward with that person. It happens all the time.

You Have To Memorize It

Finding dating advice or reading materials is not the problem, the problem is internalizing them. You have to memorize them and make them your second nature. You can voice record the advice and listen to them ritualistically.

False Pattern Recognition

Our mind has something called the "false pattern recognition". It is when we see a similar thing but don't understand the difference. For example, when we see a guy who resembles his brother a lot and can't tell the difference. Or when you see a person that looks a lot like a person you know and you think you are seeing the person you know.  Also, when you don't notice a new dent on your car because you are so used to see your car. Recognizing pattern is one of our best abilities, but it can be disadvantageous sometimes because your mind automatically avoids the information that's not in its pattern or patterns.We see with our brains, not our eyes, and what we see depends on context, pattern recognition. 

My Newly Wed Friend

So, my friend got married couple of month ago in my country. He came back to the states a while ago. After I saw him, after coming back to the states, the first thing I asked him was,"Are you still a virgin?" He took it well. We did a mock fighting about it.He looks happier now even though he said in the beginning he's in the "prison" now. This is a dating story because his player days are over. 

People With Depression Don't Observe Time Accurately

People with depression don't observe time correctly. For example, a person with depression might always have problem giving assignment on time or follow particular schedule. They always feel like there isn't enough time to do all the tasks. They can't use their time productively.

Meanness Kills Attraction

Always remember meanness kills attraction.

Do Not Hurt A Member Of The Other Sex

When you hurt a member of the other sex AKA the opposite sex, hatred gets created in that person. The person gets damaged. When that person meets a member of your sex, that person can't trust the new person. A transference occurs. You may think you win by hurting the person, but what you are doing is transferring the mental damage to a member of your own sex.

Why People Suspect It's Always Sex

 I made friend with a woman of whom people think as "crazy" because no one else would be friend with her. I felt bad for her because she was somewhat ostracized. Because I was nice with her she used to like me as a friend in the beginning. My date, mom everyone told me to be careful with her. It used to annoy me when people used to say "Be careful" of her because what they meant was I wouldn't have control over me if she attempted to have sex with me. This is the part annoyed me the most because I was never sexually attracted to her. She is older than me, so there might be a reason for her to want me.  But I stayed friend with her risking my sexual reputation because she used to be nice to me, because she is very honest, because she is a good person. She over apologizes to people. She is the kind of person of whom people take advantage of. I myself thought of taking advantage of her, not sexually. She does what people ask her. She overworks. She overdoes everything. Her work ethic is very high. She tried to get my attention many times, but I avoided those attempts. Ignored her attempts. But the worst happened, she cockblocked a young girl when the girl came on to me. She told her, "Don't be with him, he's a player". That hurt me. After all, I tolerated her crazy behaviors and kept her as a friend risking my reputation. After ten years, she should've realized that I don't want her sexually, and she has no right to be possessive about me. The girl who came on to me was very young and pretty. The girl stopped talking to me after the lady told her that I am a player. After that. I limited my interactions with the lady. Just did initial greetings. This is a message to the people who thought that I can't control myself, I can pull the plug when I need to. You have no right to judge me. Sometimes people can make another friend for truly altruistic reason which is a foreign concept to you. I have many men friends who are ostracized. You owe me an apology. The people who tried to stop me from being friends with her, insinuated that I had something sexual going on with her, what do you think now? I am sorry to say this, this actually is a projection on your part. 

What Does It Mean When You Can't Do Something

When you can't do something, it means your unconscious mind can't resolve an issue related to that and that problem/issue is not letting your conscious mind do it or move forward. Your unconscious mind decides for you, whether to avoid it or to move forward. If you want to solve a problem bring it to your conscious mind. Will power does not solve everything. This doesn't mean there are not other reasons for you to not to do it.

You Can't Be Confident Overnight

You always hear people say "Be Confident", but unless you see success it is not going to be automatic. If you don't see success, you always have to either will it or fake it. If you don't see success in your doing, if your deep seated  issues are not gone from your mind, you will never be really confident. One way is to see the positive side of something that happen to you. For example, if you miss a day from your work, you can think this either as losing money, or having some time to do something productive. Learn how to be successful first, confidence will follow.

Men Have To Be In Love To Be Jealous

One of the biggest mistake women make is they try to make men jealous by flirting with others. They would only be jealous if they are in love with you. You can't make the men fall in love with you by creating jealousy, because men don't get jealous unless they are in love. And it comes automatically, you can' create it in them. It has to come from them, without you creating it. You can use it to see if they are in love with you, but not to create love with it.

Stop Spectatoring

Stop worrying during sex.
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Never Worry About What Others Might Think Of You

Never worry what others might think of you and never act thinking that you need to please people based on their thinking. 

How To Make Things Happen

If something doesn't happen to you once, your mind automatically assumes, it doesn't happen to you. If there is no precedence, your mind doesn't have a "frame of reference". It can't make it happen automatically. On the other hand, if you can make it happen once, you can make it happen all the time in the future. If it happens once, then it becomes part of your paradigm. But it has to take place once, Otherwise, the mind get stuck and makes same things happen again and again for you. A related quote: "Everything seems impossible until someone makes it happen"---Nelson Mandela.

Sex Addicts Anonymous

For those who seriously experience problems with controlling their masturbation habits, there are programs such as Sex Addicts Anonymous that may prove helpful. 
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Do Not Self Stigmatize

Do not think of  yourself negatively. If you start to believe something negative about yourself, it becomes your reality. This the worst thing you can do to yourself. I will write about how to remove self limiting negative beliefs here in future.

Why People Are Disagreeable

Discontent makes people disagreeable. It's an unconscious psychological process.

Don't Tell Too Soon

One day I went to a bar in Manhattan, and I started talking to this beautiful girl. I didn't buy her a drink or anything, but we just kept talking. We asked each other our whereabouts. At some point she asked me, "Why are you at this bar  if you live in another borough, why you didn't go to a bar close to your place?" Without realizing her question, why she asked it, I blurted out "So that the girl won't find out where I live and won't be able stalk me after I have sex with her and after I end it". The girl laughed and said, "Well, you are not doing that to me, I am not that type of girl". She knew that I just wanted an  one-night-stand.

Now, I shared this story because there are two lessons to learn from here. One, never reveal your intention too soon. Second is, I thought I could reveal it to her because I thought she didn't want me. One the other hand, if I thought she wanted me and I could get some with her, I wouldn't end up telling her my intention accidentally. Never think the girl wouldn't want you, or that you are not good enough to get some.
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Why Someone Would Leave You

Only reason someone would leave is because if that person think you are not going to change or if you are not changeable. 

Learn Sexual Control

You should learn to control your sexual energy.

Don't Be An Introvert

Being introvert keeps you from having a social life. It makes you sedentary. Sedentary lifestyle is not good for your mental health and physical health. Not having a social life limits your dating life. 

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A Good Quote From Susan Jeffers

Susan Jeffers in her book "Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway" says : "Try to go one week without complaining or badmouthing others". I think this is hard for most of us, including me. 

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People Might Not Realize Their Addiction

Lots of people don't realize that they are addicted to something, such as sex, books, television, money, computer, etc. Take time and think what are you addicted to. It takes time to realize your own addiction.Everything is good in moderation. For example, most people are addicted to power, and they don't even realize it. 

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Negative Aspects Of Excessive Masturbation In Men

Excessive masturbation can cause the body run hormones that are bad for you physical and mental health. Eventually this can cause fatigue, hair loss, memory loss, blurred vision, et. Even though masturbation has some good sides, don't overdo it. For more click here.

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One Of The Biggest Reason For Sleeplessness In Men

High testosterone level may cause depression which may eventually cause sleeplessness in men. For more click here.
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No Statement Is 100% Complete

Some sage said, "No statement is 100% complete, including this one. All statements are partially true".
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Signs Of Clinical Depression

Signs of depression. You probably have depression or anxiety disorder  if you have the following symptoms:

1. Everything seems hard for you whereas everyone else can do those stuff effortlessly.

2. Everything is blurry to you. People's speech, movies, music. You experience these things but few seconds later you can't recall what is said.

3. If you can't remember what happened few seconds earlier. For example, if you can't remember all the items after eating at a buffet.

4. If you are blamed all the time, for not being able to finish the work.

5. If you don't feel like doing anything, lack of motivation. 

6. Sex is not as pleasurable as before or as it should be. 

7. If your performance is always low. 

8. If you say stuff and if it always out of place. 

9. If you feel like people are always finding flaws in you or are always blaming you.

10. If your stuff are not together.
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It Is Not Constant

Love is not constant. The person you love today, might be hated by you tomorrow. The level of love varies, even for the same person, day to day.
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Conscious Mind Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

We don't understand what our unconscious and subconscious mind make us do. Be aware of this fact that you do not have control over either of this. What you think consciously is just part of your whole thinking process.
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A Joke That I Made Up

Pretty often when women tell me, "Don't be  a dummy", I respond with, "I am not a dummy, I am a statue!".
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What Many Men Don't Realize

Most women, since they are children get groped, raped or get sexually harassed in someway by their close relatives or other men. Many women are wary of being sexually harassed. This is hard for many men to realize because they have never been sexually harassed. Be aware of this fact when you talk to a woman whom you have never met. She might have that fear. 

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What If You Don't Finish A Story

When you talk to a girl, if you are in the middle of the story, and something else comes up, and you have to leave without finishing it, after that don't feel like you have to finish the story. Don't go running to her after you finish your task to finish the story. This shows neediness. Don't show neediness. If she deems the story to be important, she will come. 

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Why Tinnitus Happens

Extreme anxiety and if your bodies energy is mess up, can cause tinnitus.
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What Happens If You Are Insecure

If you are insecure, you think there are reasons for your partner to not to like you. You keep thinking this way, and all of your partner's actions tells you that he/she doesn't like you even if he/she doesn't mean to show that. A person without insecurity, knows his/her partner likes him/her all the time. 

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One Way How Television Harms You

Watching too much television makes you a sexoholic or promiscuous.
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Good Quote About Not Arguing With A Fool

A good quote about not arguing with a fool, but in a different way:"Never wrestle with a pig. If you do, you'll both get filthy; the difference is that the pig will enjoy it!"

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The Human's Ego

I don't remember who said this. This seems very true to me now: "The human can't help his ego".
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Do Not Let Other Judge You On Your Look

Don't feel bad, if people call you "ugly" or something to that effect. Don't let people bring your down. Don't let them win. The worst thing you could do is believe this which makes it become unconscious, and this might stop you from approaching the other sex aka "the opposite sex". This might show up in your body language. If you do this, you let other people define you. Do not unconsciously believe that you don't look good.
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Do Not Blame Yourself

At the risk of being redundant, I am going to say, do not blame yourself. The reason I say this is because most people do it unconsciously. This becomes their self-fulling destiny. A sage once said, "You are your worst enemy because you constantly criticize yourself". Stop the chattering monkey in your mind. Be cognizant of this. Here is an article on how to stop the inner critic.

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Listen To People

Many times what people say to us, doesn't register instantly. Sometimes it takes years, and we realize how important it is.  Instead of waiting, work on the statement now.
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Anxiety Blocks Positive Thoughts

Anxiety blocks positives thoughts, keeps you from seeing the solutions.

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Don't Feel Bad If Someone Calls You "Crazy"

If someone calls you "crazy" or something to that effect, chances are that person has a closed mind or a narrow mind. Even the sanest person among us, do or say something "crazy" all the time. Besides, most people are not responsible for their brain chemistry. 

Don't Tell People This

We often say this to people, "What's wrong with you!" for the simplest reason. I am not saying, there aren't people who don't have something wrong with them. But labelling people for the littlest mistake is also wrong, we overuse this statement.
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A Common Joke That I have Used

A Common Joke That I have Used

Many times, I go up to girls or message them on the social media by saying, "I didn't believe in god until I saw you! I had to believed in his existence after I saw how beautifully he made you!"
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Don't Feel Bad If You Don't Know Something

Knowledge is partial and relative. Don't feel bad if you don't know something. Don't be a whippersnapper either. Don't feel bad if you have been a whippersnapper. We all have been one time-to-time. Just don't be a whippersnapper all the time, don't bring people down.
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Your Biggest Enemy

Your biggest enemy is constant anxiety. Don't worry about anything. Constant anxiety can make people dumb and can cause depression and many  other diseases.You biggest enemy is fear. Fear paralyzes you. Some common fears are fear of intimacy, fear of approach, fear of public speaking, fear of facing interview. Some of these fears unconsciously paralyze you.
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Depression Can Cause This

Depression and anxiety disorder can shrink the penis, can cause to have a "limp dick".  Read more on this here.
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My Name Is "God"!

My Name Is "God"!

One day, I went to a bar. I observed the place for a while, did a little male bonding with few men. Then I saw a girl that I liked. Then, I gathered the courage to talk to the girl. I approached her. Then I started to talk to her. At some point, she asked me, "What is your name?" I jokingly answered "God". She laughed. So, I avoided saying my name for the whole night. So then, I worked my "mojo" on her, and she invited me to go to her house. Both of us were tipsy, but we drank little white wine which I bought as we were going to her house. At some point, we started to touch each other, and started to kiss each other. Then I took her to bed. After foreplay, I pleasured her so much, she kept saying my name, "Ohhh, god! ohhh, god! ohhh, god! ohhh, god!"

(This joke is not meant to desecrate any religion, I apologize if I've hurt your religious views. Here I could've used any other word instead of god, words that describe creator in other religions. I have used the word god because the word "god" is synonymous of creator in English. This is just  a joke. It didn't actually happen.)
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This Is A Must Before You Do Anything Else

Before you do anything in life, you have to decide what you want to be. Otherwise, your mind wanders around aimlessly. After you become that one thing, then you become something else. Otherwise, you are all over the place.
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A Great Quote About Learning

"The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change."----Carl Rogers.
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Another Dating Story

Second Dating Story

One day, I went to the local coffee shop, and I saw a girl sitting at a table. I went ahead and approached her and sat myself on the empty chair. So, we got to talking. After a while, the girl asked me, "Sooooo, what do you do?" I answered her jokingly, "I do sex!"

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Dating Story One

Story Number One 

One day, I went to a bar/lounge. So, I saw this pretty girl dancing on the floor, and I felt like dancing with her. So, I went up to her and started to dance with her. After a while, she told me, "Get me a drink" like she was ordering me. I didn't like her tone. I just swayed away. Danced alone. 

 After a while, I went outside for some fresh air. After getting some air, I headed back for the bar and there was the lady standing in front of the bar with her friends. As soon as she saw me, she yelled out, "Here comes the Taliban!".

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Don't Learn Indirectly

You learn by doing, not by reading or watching a video about it. Start doing then use the reading material or the video as a reference. 

You Need A Reason To Be Confident

You Need A Reason To Be Confident

People Always say, "Be confident", but your mind need a reason to be confident. Without a precedent of a good incident, an outcome that you need, your mind can't really be confident. You can fake it up to certain point, but your internal mental state is going to revert back to the unconfident state.
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You Can't Perform It Right The First Time

If you read a joke or a routine from a book, you can't do it right just by reading once. There is a learning curve. Be aware of this fact, and don't perform prematurely. Practice to hone your skills.
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What Does It Mean If You Are Mean

If you are mean to someone, that means you are threatened by that person.
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Ladies, What Does A Guy Think When You Do This

When you tell a guy you have a boyfriend even when you don't or play the jealousy game too much, most men dub you as a "manipulator". It hurts them emotionally. They think, "If she can play with my emotion like this, she can hurt me in the future emotionally". This makes many men reluctant to be with you. 

What Does It Mean If You Are Too Picky

If you are too picky, it means you are afraid of getting hurt. It is a defense mechanism. Healthy level of pickiness is okay, but being obsessively picky means you can't get over the pain from previous relationships, you are deeply scarred. I am not saying it is your fault. You just need to find a way to get over the pain. More on how to get over the pain from past relationships will be posted in an upcoming post. 

The Opposite Sex?

Read this somewhere, why do men and women refer to each others as "the opposite sex"? Men and women are not "opposite", they are different, but not opposite. We have to start referring as "the other sex".
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Don't Link Your Identity To This

Don't link your identity to how you perform in the bed. Performing badly in the bed can lower your self esteem. There are things you can do to improve your performance. For example, sex with a condom is less pleasurable for both sexes than sex without it. So, while using condom, you can use lubricant on outer side of the condom  to make sex more pleasurable . This is just one example. In future, I plan to add a link to this to where it shows how to improve your performance.

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Be Careful

This happens to people who don't have sex regularly, or people who rush to sex. I am writing this because millions of people are affected with STD or have STI. STD is when you already have the Sexually Transmitted Disease. STI is Sexually Transmitted infections. They both get transmitted. Fortunately, there are websites which tells you about the signs or symptom STD/STI. Both of these terms are used intermittently. Looking up the signs of STD/STI will help both men and women. Both men and women can start getting treatment for the diseases and can take precaution if they see the symptoms. A link where you can see some of the symptoms of STI: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/sexual-health/sexually-transmitted-infections/signs%20symptoms.

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Don't Let This Lower Your Self Esteem

Not getting sex might lower your self esteem. Be aware of this fact. Don't let this happen to you 

Sexting In This Group Is More Prevalent Than You Think

Three quarters of all teens have cell phones. Teens are sexting and sending improper pictures now more than any other time in the history.
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