It's Not Fair To Blame When One Doesn't Know What He's Doing

You can't blame people for what they do unconsciously because at the time what they are doing they are not in complete control of their minds. 

This Applies To All

Most people don't see their own mistakes, but see others'.

Why People Are Nice

The people who are nice, they are not nice intentionally, it is their brain chemistry. They are wired to be that way.

Self Serving Bias

This is straight from Wikipedia:"The self-serving bias is people's tendency to attribute positive events to their own character but attribute negative events to external factors. It's a common type of cognitive bias that has been extensively studied in social psychology." I posted to this so that people could be aware of this fact, but this does not mean "external factors" never play a role. It just that people do this unconsciously. 

Funny Gift

One day, one of my friends got married without any prior notice. They needed witness, so we were there. They hired small catering hall, it was all impromptu. So, we didn't have enough time to buy a proper gift for him. So, I and my friend gave him two condoms, one from each, which we were carrying in our pockets. I told him, "The population is at seven billion. This is the only way I could control the earth's population". The other guy said, he just wanted him to be prepared. It was funny. 

Don't Try To Make It Look Like Only Your Would Be Partner Is Initiating The Approach

In the beginning of relationship people, both men and women, try to make it look like one side came onto the other. They think it makes them look "good" in people's eye, but it makes your would be  partner not trust you, stops the person from taking anymore initiative. You have to care about your would be partner's reputation too.

Being Reminded Of Your Ex Can Be Torturous

Seeing your ex or if you are remind of your ex with whom you have had a painful break actually tortures you mentally, pokes the same part of the brain where you feel pain.

Why You Eject Yourself From The Conversation

If you eject yourself from a conversation while talking to a member of the other sex aka the opposite sex, you are insecure. 

What Does It Mean If You Feel Guilty For Wanting Sex

If you feel guilty for wanting sex, if you feel like you are doing something "wrong" by wanting sex, that means you are insecure about your look. However, this is not the only reason.

What Happens When You Are Insecure

If you are insecure, you can't make the right move even if you want to. For example, if a person tells you "You look good", you would go like, "But do you really like me" or something like that. A secure person knows everyone likes him or her.

People Are Not Crazy Or Sane Or Stupid

People are not crazy or sane or stupid, it is the brain chemistry they have, they are born with, or which they  acquired because of life experience. Don't call people crazy or stupid. Sometimes it is inhuman. Sometimes they are not responsible for their brain chemistry.

Don't Say People Are Bad

If you think other people are bad, it actually triggers anger in your and makes you behave badly towards them. It's an unconscious process. It is an involuntary process. You actually hurt yourself by doing this. 

The Human Mind Requires Pleasure

The human mind always needs an opiate.

Insecurity Makes You Forget

Insecurity makes you forget how stupid people are or that people have it worse than you. If you are insecure, you are going to forget that the woman is as good or as bad as you are. Insecurity makes you date any woman who has no life, who is in worse shape than you are. It might be that girl don't think you are in bad shape, you yourself think that from the way she behaves with you or even before that. Insecurity makes you think the girl is better than you. Always remember, no matter how pretty the girl is, she's just a human like you. Plus, women don't like the guy who doesn't believe he himself is a catch. Your lifestyle, your body language have to show you think yourself as something big. You have to make that your reality, then she will automatically think you are something big. She thinks what you think, what you convey. 

One Of The Reasons Why People Have Sex

People have sex to go up the social ladder. People don't realize it because it is unconscious. If I were to say a hooker has sex for money because money begets social status, would I be wrong? This is not the only act of gaining social status that people do. For example, arranged marriage is directly related to social status. So is non-arranged marriage. This is true for both men and women on some level. 

What Makes People Promiscuous

If a person is insecure he/she becomes promiscuous for ego validation. He/she starts to have sex with many people for approval. But don't think I am labelling you for this. To be insecure is to be human. However, to be insecure perpetually and to be promiscuous perpetually is also wrong. What I am saying is you have to learn how to be secure or achieve that mental state by doing some inner-mind work.

Why People Flirt Even After Marriage

Sex is directly related to ego. Because people are insecure, they feel like they need validation from others. So, they can't stop flirting with people even after marriage, even after they have a partner.

How To Be Good In Bed

Sex is more psychological than people realize. We all heard the saying "Mind is the biggest sex organ". This actually, at least partially,  means how you make the person feel  mentally  is what determines how good the sex is going to be. To be more specific how you make the person feel emotionally. By having sex with the right person, you can feel empowered, recharged. To be "good in bed" is purely psychological. Sexual satisfaction is mental satisfaction before the physical act. Sex is ego validation. You have to satisfy the person's ego to satisfy the person sexually. It's how much you respect the person.

A person can look "not so good" but can be real good in bed. For example, if a guy is a rock star but doesn't look so "good", the woman he's having sex would still find the sex real good because of his status, because of his stardom. It has more to do with how you make the person feel when you are around that person. When the person is around you,  do you feel excited, happy or annoyed, bored is what determines how good the sex is going to be. If a person is funny and has his life together, he can make his partner more happy even if he doesn't look good. If a person has his life together, he/she can make his/her partner more happy in bed, than a person who doesn't.

Lot of people also have the mindset, "What I am getting from by having sex with this person". For example lots of men think, "If she cooks for me, she does the laundry, she takes care  of my kids, if she packs my lunch for me, if she does this and that, she's is a 'good wife', so having sex with her is fun". Many women think, "If he can provide me my life necessities, good at his job, buys me jewelry, if he doesn't cheat on me, he's a 'good husband', so I am going to satisfy him in bed". In both cases, how both sides satisfy each other's material needs determines how good the sex is. In other words, what's my motivation for having sex?

In some of my past relationships, many times, when I was happy when  other women came onto me, my then girlfriends wouldn't be so nice in bed because they got a little jealous. Or sometimes when I was mean to them, they weren't as nice as usual. Another time, my then girlfriend was mean to me, I actually made her pay fifty bucks to tame me. In another occasion, when an ex cooked for me, took me to a nice restaurant, I was very nice to her. So, it's how good you make a person  feel emotionally, determines how good you are in bed. Remember sex is in the emotional brain as much as it is in the animal brain, the  R-complex. It is what you do before sex all day long, it's how you treat the person trigger his/ her emotional circuitry of love, how much you satisfy that person's ego determines how good the sex is going to be.You have to let the person know that you like the person before the person's physical need is met. If the person doesn't feel good about himself/herself, know that you appreciate him/her for who he/she is, he/she is not going to enjoy sex with you. The person has to feel appreciated.  So, sex is just not about look, it's your status, your lifestyle, how you make the person feel emotionally, it's your whole life, what the person is getting from you by having sex, and how you make the person feel when you are around the person.

What Happens When You Have An Orgasm

When you have an orgasm, your body releases endorphin, that is why you feel good.Endorphin neurochemical occurring naturally in the brain and having analgesic properties. Endorphin injection is given to women when they give birth to reduce pain.

Trust Me Guys, This Line Works

I once said to a girl I am going to tell another girl that I have never seen her with her hair open. The one I said it to got jealous, and the one I used it on got enamored with me. 

It Is Not Just A Word

Love is just not a word. It is a commitment, sometimes for a lifetime, sometimes stronger than marriage when there is strong feelings involved. You shouldn't use it without understanding other person's feelings or where the person is emotionally. It could hurt the person who is saying it, also could hurt the person who is being said to.

Where Does Insecurity Come From

If nothing is going right in your life, you are not going to be good with women either because the failures, negativity, bad experiences stay in your mind. Your reality becomes a reality that you can't accept. Therefore, you can't be confidence. You need to change your life before you want to be good with women.

Where Does Altruism Come From

Altruism is unconscious and it is directly related to our superego. If you are too altruistic that actually means you want to be a superstar.

What Does Depression Means

Depression means you are at odd with the world, your mind can't accept your reality. 

Casual Sex Is Not Casual Sex

Be careful if you do casual sex, non romantic sex. If you do it long enough you might actually fall in love. You body might get "locked" with your sex partner. Sex might the trigger emotional circitury  and can cause the hormones to run through your body. 

Sex Drive Might Be Related To Your Social Status

Most people in power position have high sex drive because when in power your dopamine level gets high. If people have low status, they might have a low sex drive.

Why People Are Mean

If you are mean and cannot be nice, that means you are in lot of stress or suffering from severe depression. Life squished the love out of you, it is not your fault, you are a victim.

Don't Judge This Type Of Person

If a person is always approaching women, always hitting on women, that doesn't mean he's lecherous. That means he's lonely, lack love in love. Also, he might not be feel like his life is complete, so he's trying to feel the void. Some people feel unloved. Those people usually follow any path that enables them to get some of the love they need. Without realizing the reason those people can become sex addicts who try to have sex with anyone they encounter.Don't judge this type of people because they are doing it for companion, not because they are too sexual. It might be that they need to make their social circle bigger or make more friends and spend time with them. This is true for both gender. The worst thing you could do to them is call them "whores" or something to that effect. 

Why People Don't Want To Get Married

There are lots of people who don't want to get married or don't want to commit because they have never got the proper loving and caring from the other sex aka the opposite sex. They can't trust the other sex aka the other sex. This might result from being raised by a single parent, lack of social life, hormones, depression distrust in people, not being loved by people, being antisocial and lack of social status. Getting love and support from the other sex can cure this. 

What Does It Mean When Someone Cheats On You

This is not always true, but many times it is. Many times, if a person cheats on you that means, you can't satisfy that person's emotional need. This does not mean you are going to use it justify cheating. If you feel like someone is not there for you emotionally, you are going to end it, but not cheat. 

What Does The Right One Mean

When people say they are looking for the right one, they actually mean they are looking for someone who share the same dreams, they are looking for themselves. This is little different from looking for the same personality type. This actually means people want the one who share the same dreams and people think if the person share the same dreams they would help them. Otherwise they won't help, and as a result they won't be compatible. You can actually make someone fall for you by telling the person you have the same dreams.

Why You Hate The Other Sex

If you hate the other sex aka the opposite sex, that means you don't have enough positive energy of that sex. It could also be your brain chemistry.

At This State Of Mind You Can't Really Love

When you are suffering from severe depression, because of your brain chemistry, even if you have feelings for someone, you can't really love anyone because you yourself lack the love. Your emotional void, not getting enough love, make you emotionally needy. At that state of mind, you need love more than anyone else. I am not saying it is your fault, your are the victim.

Who Survives The Most

"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change."---Charles Darwin.