Learn To Get Organized, Men

Most men are conditioned to not to organize their surrounding because they are trained to do "outside work". Traditionally, women are trained to do this. It becomes a men and women thing. While men thinking is very linear, organized and consecutive, they can't get organized. This becomes a problem when women organize for them because women can find stuff placed in random fashion which is still "organized" in women's mind but not in men's mind. In women's mind what's wrong with displacing stuff left by men, they are all their, I can find  it, so can men". Unfortunately, it makes men nervous. Just  keep in mind, women can work in chaos, men can't. Think it this way, a women can take care of 3 or four babies while cooking. In contrast, men brain freezes in this situation. Once, I was working in a coat check. They put a newbie with me. She kept re-organizing things--- coat, bags, shoes and umbrellas---in her own way, replacing them in her own way. This made me crazy. I couldn't get her to understand, it would be very hard for me to find all the stuff. In her mind she was "organizing" things. So, while men are disorganized through inculcation, it becomes a further problem when women organize for them. To make matter worse, women want to use this to make it look like they are doing "something" for men. Later, they get to say, "I cook and clean for you, for what?"

Things To Remember For Your Relationship

Always  remember, our ego justifies our wrong action. We also blame our partner preemptively to hide our wrong action so that we don't get blamed first. And we don't accept our wrong action to save our gender fearing the opposite sex would take advantage of us. Therefore, the opposite sex would win. In our mind, our partner represents all the members of the opposite sex.

We also love to play the victim in our relationship...we think like,"I work, work and work all day for you...I get nothing in return"....

The Human Is By Nature Polygamous

The human is by nature polygamous.

Why You Might Not Be Able To Approach

The men who can't approach women are programmed to think women are mean when approached. This conditioning happen because of years of experience. Enough positive response, visualization, incantation can undo this.

Sometimes We Justify Not Approaching Thinking That The Person Is Not Going To Like Us

.Because of insecurity you think if you approach the person he is going to hate it. At the end you justify it by saying "I don't want that person". This sort of happens automatically. Ask yourself if that person was really into you, would you not approach him/her? Don't assume the person is going to like you.

You Might Be Playing The Victim

When arguing over an issue with your partner, if you are blaming your partner and you have to make up stuff to justify your cause, you are playing the victim. You yourself might not realize it.

Little Bit Of Flirting Can Create Deep Connection

Little bit of flirting can connect two peoples body and mind because of hormones, because we are wired to be connected to certain type. Be aware of this. 

When You Might Seem Possessive

 If your partner is socially less powerful than you are, jealousy may seem as possessiveness to your partner, especially if you yell at your partner when your partner is not really flirting but just being social. Try telling your partner that you like/love him/her nicely. It won't seem as possessiveness.

Don't Be Reactive

 You react positively or negatively to the person you are interacting with depending on his/her behavior. Train yourself not to be reactive if the person is negative.

Women Your Men Are Not Yelling

By nature, the man has bigger/louder vocal chord than the woman.So, even when he talks in his normal voice, it sounds loud to the woman. As a result, she thinks he's yelling even when he's talking in his normal voice. Estrogen is responsible for the lower voice in the woman.

Where Your Partner Might Cheat On You Most Of The Time

Aside from the internet and the bar scene, most people who cheat they meet their partner at work or a place of personal interest/hobby. This is what the research show, most of them meet at these places.

It Is Not His Fault

It's not the man's fault that he's promiscuous, he's never been told or taught not to be. He doesn't think being promiscuous is wrong. He's actually admired for his sexual conquest. So, you can't really blame him for being promiscuous. He is conditioned.

We Are All Tyrannical

Most of us don't change our ways, yet we expect others to change there ways. Only the ones with more muscle power win. We are all somewhat tyrannical

What Really Is Approach Anxeity

Aside from your insecurity, approach anxiety is mainly fear of other people, because we are wired to conform to the needs of majority, people around us.

We Are All Lecherous

We are all lecherous. Some people get away with it because of their social status.Others, they get labeled and vilified because of their low status. If you deny publicly that you are not lecherous that actually means you are lecherous.

Women Talking Pattern, Men Talking Pattern

Excerpt from the book, "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps": "The multi-tracking ability [of talking] is frustrating for a man as the male brain is mono-tracked and can only handle one subject at a time. When a group of women are multi-tracking several subjects, men can become completely dazed and confused." Basically, this means that the man brain is not wired to jump from topic to topic, but the woman brain is. When women talk and jump from topic to topic and go to another topic suddenly, it frustrates men.

We Don't Approach Because We Sex Shame Ourselves And The Society Also Sex Shames Us

Most of the time when we don't make our move, it's usually because we fear society's sex shaming. We really don't want to be seen as the person who's making the sexual advance. So, don't try to make it look like only the member of the other sex, aka "the opposite sex"(I don't believe in the term "opposite sex", male and female are not "opposite"), is making the advance when you are equally responsible. If you do that, you are the one really doing the sex shaming to save yourself from being shamed. Your only way of looking good is to blame preemptively. Remember, both sides are always sex shamed. Why broach these matters? Because we do those unconsciously without realizing, both sex shaming and not making the move.

This really means we don't to want accept ourselves that we are attracted to random people because doing so would make us liable for making the move. Also, it would make us aware of the fact we are promiscuous, and we don't want to accept that we are, because we are programmed to think sex is a sinful act. In essence, we are sex shaming ourselves because we are unconsciously forced to conform, because we think sex is sin. Why should we learn to accept the fact that we are promiscuous by nature? Because repressing sex actually makes you want it more and harms you spiritually. Because sex is considered a sin, every time we make the move, we think we are doing something sinful. So, when we think it's a sin, we continue to sex shame ourselves. This manifests in hesitation and stopping ourselves every time we want to make the move, shows up in our body language. Also, we approach indirectly because approaching directly would mean we are doing something sinful overtly. If it's a sin, we continue to sex shame ourselves and others.

Next time, someone makes the move on you overcoming the social pressure, appreciate the effort, instead of sex shaming and making it look like only the person is initiating it.

Don't Feel Like You Always Have To Be Right

If you feel like you always have to be right, that means you are insecure. This messes up your relationship.

Love Does Not Equal Compatibilty

If you love someone or have strong feelings for someone that doesn't always mean you are compatible to live together. The chemistry might still not be right. That doesn't mean you guys share the same dreams.

Don't Feel Small

You are not supposed to know everything. Don't feel small for not knowing something or making a gaffe. I mention this because we were created to gather information. Unconsciously we feel "low" if we don't know something.