Jealousy May Seem As Possessiveness

If your partner is socially less powerful than you are, jealousy may seem as possessiveness to your partner, especially if you yell at your partner when your partner is not really flirting but just being social. Try telling your partner that you like/love him/her nicely. It won't seem as possessiveness.

Don't Be Mean To These People

Some people are "lecherous" because they are emotionally distressed, mentally broken and lonely, because they are not accepted anywhere else in life. At this state, they are emotionally vulnerable. They always seem to be making sexual advance or approaching people, they do it because they never get any. Since people are wired to be social, wired to seek companion, at this state, they are more susceptible to sex, since sex can emotionally satisfy people and relieve people of stress. They mostly do it to not to feel lonely, for acceptance and ego validation. It is not fair to label these people as "whores", or say that they are "promiscuous" , or say something akin to this. It is inhuman.

A very lonely, poor and ostracized person would fuck anyone. It is NOT okay to judge the person. It is part of life, we have so many people whom we wouldn't fuck, but would judge them when they do find someone to fuck.

Approach Anxiety Is Fear Of Other People

Aside from your insecurity, approach anxiety is mainly fear of other people, because we are wired to conform to the needs of majority, people around us.

What Most Women Don't Get

What most women don't understand is in a relationship that if they treat their partner badly sooner or later you have to suck up to their partner to assuage. Why treat your partner badly at the first place?

Learn To Talk Properly

We are wired to be social, that is why we feel like sharing our thoughts by talking. Talking is one of the best tools we have for socializing, connecting with other people. Unfortunately, when we talk, most of us can't enunciate our thoughts and can't talk accurately, we tend to talk uncontrollably. The best way to avoid this is to write down your thoughts and  peruse through what you write and fix the mistakes and memorize. Then practice speaking it.  Also, you have to practice talking slowly and watch what you say. It's not that people are not profound, it is that they can't enunciate and talk uncontrollably, randomly. They don't practice speaking. Talking randomly and uncontrollably irk people.

Women, Why You Hide Your Relationship

You wouldn't hide your relationship if you were a good girl. You fear making your relationship public/official would let people know how bad you really are. You hide it so that you continue to be bad, so that your sexual reputation is not tarnished.

Some Reasons Why Men Cheat Or Leave

I wrote this long ago because many women ask "Why men leave without saying anything", or "Why men leave after sex", or "Why men cheat". I have tried to compile the reasons which I think might make men do those. This doesn't mean these are the only reasons or that these are true for everyone:

Why your man might cheat, or eject from your relationship suddenly without giving a notice  or how is it justified leaving after sex . He might not be able to enunciate these. He might not even realize he feels this way because these are unconscious responses. He might not leave or cheat, but hold some of these stuff against you.

Some sage once said: The man doesn't cheat because he is lecherous, he cheats because his dreams are not met because of his partner, because  he's  emotionally abused, because he  doesn't find peace while he's with his partner. 

Here are are the reasons I compiled :

1. If you flirt but play hard to get.  This makes him think you flip flop, prevaricate,and it makes him nervous. He gets stuck mentally because his thinking is linear and this is out of sequence for him. It also makes him think your thinking is not linear, not lucid/transparent. Also you are not educated because your thinking is not transparent enough, because you can't think straight.

2. If you flirt, but say 'no' when he asks you out. This makes him think you don't care about his feelings even though he opens up to you because after he's rejected he goes through trauma if there's feelings , he feels you're going to continue to not care about his feelings. This is also a out of sequence for him, confuses him further.

3. You are mean to him and you don't apologize to him after being mean. This makes him think you are a tyrant and you do not accept to your wrongs. This also makes him feel you don't care about his feelings. He thinks you won't deliver when he demands something that is justified for him to demand. If he dubs you as a tyrant, he thinks he can't change you in a way that would help him to achieve his lifelong dreams. Then there's no point in being with you because you are going to hamper his lifelong dreams.

4. Your lies are obvious and you continue to do it. Say you say you are good to Connecticut but you actually are not.

5. You publicly say negative things about him. This makes him think you are going to harass him in public to get your ways instead of dealing with him directly in private.

6. You play the jealousy game. Jealousy game is manipulation. 

7. You are indirect. If you're indirect, he thinks you are manipulative.

8. You don't accept him in public. Your sexual reputation is more important than his feelings and reputation.

8. You try to make it look like he's the only one who's flirting with you where as you initiate the flirtation.

9. If you use sex to goad him and then ration sex. This makes him think you are going to use sex as a weapon, use it to get him to do stuff. 

10. If you withhold sex to punish him.

11. If you never think about anything but material things. You don't want to be an artist or a writer or a scientist or something that uses your mind. This makes him think you are average and your thinking is of low level. All you want is money and you are greedy.

11. He speaks to you you pretend like you don't hear or you act like it's no big deal. It makes him feel like you are not going to listen to him when he really needs you. Also that he's not important enough to you.

11. If you use other men against him. This puts him through severe trauma. Might scar him for life.

12. If you tell about your relationship problems to all your relatives and friends.

13. If all you do is criticize him and when you can't find something to criticize you make up stuff about him to criticize. This makes him think all you want from is his physical labor, you want to use him.

14. If you just flirt and not talk to him and don't let him talk to you about your relationship. He feels you don't care about him and the relationship. He feels you can't think straight because you're not showing good judgment in this regard.

15. You think it's ok to avoid him whenever you please.

16. If you are not flexible in doing things.

17. If you are controlling.

18. If you are socially more powerful than he is and you abuse it.

19. You never talk about how you feel about him. This makes him think you don't care about him.

20. If you continue to say or imply how incompetent he's despite his hard work.

Your Performance Level

How well you perform depends on three things: how helpful and resourceful your reference group is, how well you live and and how much resource you have. For example if you go to a bad school with sub standard education level, you might not be well spoken. 

Traveling Would Make Her Look Like A Whore

It's not that a woman wouldn't travel to have sex with you, it's just that doing so would make her look like a whore and easy going.

How We Mess Up With Our Potential Partners In The Beginning

Because of our insecurity we unconsciously harass or behave unruly to our potential partners or dates thinking that they are not approaching us even when they are actually approaching us. But we translate their behavior as if they don't accept of us. This insecurity is so insidious it takes us long time to become aware of this and to modify our approach.

Most People Don't Know What They Are Doing Wrong In Their Relationship

Most people don't know what they are doing wrong in their relationship because they are doing them unconsciously and they can't read their partner's mind.

Why Most Couples Can't Debate In A Healthy Manner

Most couples can't debate good because they can't enunciate and because they don't understand how both of  their actions are justified.

Approach More Often

Most men don't approach most of the time fearing something might go wrong. But they should practice approaching more to improve their skill. New insights come from practicing.

Who Likely To Blame The Victim

The uber rich or the one in clover is more likely to point the finger at the victim because they have never gone through the economic hurdle.  I think I have read something akin to this in a NYT article.

They Are Not Lecherous

The men who have sex with prostitutes, they are lonely and can't afford to have a normal relationship. Don't judge them. They're the victim. I am not saying there are not men who do it purely for sexual pleasure. But many men do it because they have no option, because extreme loneliness and constant rejection from women and society can destroy men mentally. Plus, research showed that without female touch men can become clinically depressed.

What Travels Faster Than Light

There are subatomic particles that travel faster than light. Await the particles' name. These doesn't mean things that we can see travel at light speed. It is only true for subatomic level. 

Stop Pretending To Know

Stop pretending to know things you don't know. We all talk and argue about things that we don't know. We lecture people about things that we don't know. I am no exception, I do it too.

They Are Not Hardworking

As weird as it may sound, the hardworking people are the lazy people because they randomly do stuff to avoid the mental challenge.

How The Sun Rotates

Found this in an article: "The movements of the sunspots indicate that the sun rotates once every 27 days at its equator, but only once in 31 days at its poles." This means the sun is spinning on both of its axes.

The Catholic Church In Accordance With Great Scientists

The Catholic Church or the Roman Catholic Church, which has 1.25 billion members world wide, accepted the "Big Bang Theory". In 1951, it promulgated that the theory is in accordance with the Bible.

Avoiding Challenge Unconsciously

People do lots of hard work to avoid mental challenge unconsciously. 

A Banal Writing About The Atom

The word "atom" in Greek means "indivisible", something that is not divisible. Earlier scientists thought "atom" is the furthest you could go and that is the "elementary particle". Only later scientists discovered that an "atom" is not the most "elementary particle". If you go deeper, in to subatomic level, you get electron, proton, neutron and further down  "up quark", "down quark". Even then, they are not the "elementary particles". Aristotle believed, elements could be  broken down--that it is  ''divisible"-- infinite number of times. The deeper you could go, the more particles you would find. There is no end. His belief holds true to this day. They haven't named all the subatomic particles yet. If you search for "name of subatomic particles" hundreds of name will come up.

Most People Don't Realize

Most people don't realize how toxic or dangerous their words are because they talk unconsciously. Most people don't realize the ramification of what they are doing because they do it unconsciously.

We Don't Realize We Compare Ourselves To Others

We compare ourselves with others unconsciously. If we perceive that we are lower than the ones we compare ourselves with, it brings us down .It happens automatically.

First Man Made Spacecraft To Land On Another Planet

Venera 7 was the first spacecraft to land on Venus and first spacecraft to transmit 23 minutes of video, on December 15, 1970. Long before that, Venera 3, however, just crash landed on Venus and was not able to transmit. By the way, Venera means Venus in Russian. 

What Should You Do If Your Partner Looks At Other People

When your partner looks at a member of opposite sex unconsciously, without realizing, the person should be forgiven ...both for men and women...but let your partner know RESPECTFULLY that you don't like it, not by yelling...do not make this an issue...it's human...don't use this to get upper hand when having an argument, do not use this to harass your partner in public...that makes you low. But remember men are more visual or wired differently. Plus, most men don't consider it cheating and find it austere when their partner ask them to not to look at other women. They think it's not a big deal to look at other women. 

Here's the biggest problem with this though, if you get angered or annoyed by such little thing all the time, that actually means your are insecure or that there are reasons for your partner to leave you. People don't leave their partner by looking inadvertently. This also means you are a bit controlling if you constantly berate your partner about it, if you feel good doing it. If you constantly do it, it tells your partner you are controlling. 

This doesn't mean I am condoning it when people do it consciously and keep doing it even after they are asked to not to do it.

All "Bird's Eye View" Images Of Milky Way Galaxy Are Not Real

They don't have a "bird's eye view" image of our galaxy Milky Way because no man-made spacecraft ever reached high enough or on "top" of our  galaxy to get a picture of it which would give us such a view. Most of the images with such view that you see on television or somewhere else are computer generated which they create from other spiral galaxies' images. Voyager 1 is the first man-made spacecraft to go out of our solar system, but that still hasn't gone far enough to get a "bird's eye view" image.

One Human Nature

By nature the human has scarcity mentality.

Men And Women Thinking About The Simplest Thing

Most women don't have problem admitting in public that they don't know the simplest thing, most men do.

Being Conniving Is Not Same As Being Smart

Lot of people actually thinks being Machiavellian is actually "smart".That is not the definition smart. Definition of smart is how many MORE problems you can solve  in your life than other people and problems which haven't been solved before. Being Machiavellian means you are conniving or manipulative.

Why You Might Be Hot Headed

If you are too rebellious, recalcitrant, hot headed that actually means you have too much anxiety, fear and they are  heating up your mind/brain. So you become reactive and go after people a lot. However, this is not true for people who enjoys powertrip. 

This Delusion Actually Helps

When you say to many people "oh, this person looks real good", they automatically go like, "s/he doesn't look better than me!", even though they actually don't look as good as the person you are talking about.That is because they have an "imaginary self" that they dream to be which is better looking than the one that you are talking about.They feel sooner or later they can be as good looking as their "imaginary self".That is actually good because even if it's a delusion, it shows up in their body language, personality.

Why You Might Not Interested In People First Time

Lots of people actually preemptively don't like their potential dates thinking that they wouldn't like them.

How To Be A Good Dancer

 How well you can dance in public places  depends on your social status.Your brain constantly sends status signals to your mind without you being aware of it. That affects your body language.

High Testosterone Level Makes Men Violent

High T may cause men to be violent.