Jealousy May Seem As Possessiveness

If your partner is socially less powerful than you are, jealousy may seem as possessiveness to your partner, especially if you yell at your partner when your partner is not really flirting but just being social. Try telling your partner that you like/love him/her nicely. It won't seem as possessiveness.

Don't Be Mean To These People

Some people are "lecherous" because they are emotionally distressed, mentally broken and lonely, because they are not accepted anywhere else in life. At this state, they are emotionally vulnerable. They always seem to be making sexual advance or approaching people, they do it because they never get any. Since people are wired to be social, wired to seek companion, at this state, they are more susceptible to sex, since sex can emotionally satisfy people and relieve people of stress. They mostly do it to not to feel lonely, for acceptance and ego validation. It is not fair to label these people as "whores", or say that they are "promiscuous" , or say something akin to this. It is inhuman.

A very lonely, poor and ostracized person would fuck anyone. It is NOT okay to judge the person. It is part of life, we have so many people whom we wouldn't fuck, but would judge them when they do find someone to fuck.

Approach Anxiety Is Fear Of Other People

Aside from your insecurity, approach anxiety is mainly fear of other people, because we are wired to conform to the needs of majority, people around us.

What Most Women Don't Get

What most women don't understand is in a relationship that if they treat their partner badly sooner or later you have to suck up to their partner to assuage. Why treat your partner badly at the first place?

Learn To Talk Properly

We are wired to be social, that is why we feel like sharing our thoughts by talking. Talking is one of the best tools we have for socializing, connecting with other people. Unfortunately, when we talk, most of us can't enunciate our thoughts and can't talk accurately, we tend to talk uncontrollably. The best way to avoid this is to write down your thoughts and  peruse through what you write and fix the mistakes and memorize. Then practice speaking it.  Also, you have to practice talking slowly and watch what you say. It's not that people are not profound, it is that they can't enunciate and talk uncontrollably, randomly. They don't practice speaking. Talking randomly and uncontrollably irk people.

Women, Why You Hide Your Relationship

You wouldn't hide your relationship if you were a good girl. You fear making your relationship public/official would let people know how bad you really are. You hide it so that you continue to be bad, so that your sexual reputation is not tarnished.

Some Reasons Why Men Cheat Or Leave

I wrote this long ago because many women ask "Why men leave without saying anything", or "Why men leave after sex", or "Why men cheat". I have tried to compile the reasons which I think might make men do those. This doesn't mean these are the only reasons or that these are true for everyone:

Why your man might cheat, or eject from your relationship suddenly without giving a notice  or how is it justified leaving after sex . He might not be able to enunciate these. He might not even realize he feels this way because these are unconscious responses. He might not leave or cheat, but hold some of these stuff against you.

Some sage once said: The man doesn't cheat because he is lecherous, he cheats because his dreams are not met because of his partner, because  he's  emotionally abused, because he  doesn't find peace while he's with his partner. 

Here are are the reasons I compiled :

1. If you flirt but play hard to get.  This makes him think you flip flop, prevaricate,and it makes him nervous. He gets stuck mentally because his thinking is linear and this is out of sequence for him. It also makes him think your thinking is not linear, not lucid/transparent. Also you are not educated because your thinking is not transparent enough, because you can't think straight.

2. If you flirt, but say 'no' when he asks you out. This makes him think you don't care about his feelings even though he opens up to you because after he's rejected he goes through trauma if there's feelings , he feels you're going to continue to not care about his feelings. This is also a out of sequence for him, confuses him further.

3. You are mean to him and you don't apologize to him after being mean. This makes him think you are a tyrant and you do not accept to your wrongs. This also makes him feel you don't care about his feelings. He thinks you won't deliver when he demands something that is justified for him to demand. If he dubs you as a tyrant, he thinks he can't change you in a way that would help him to achieve his lifelong dreams. Then there's no point in being with you because you are going to hamper his lifelong dreams.

4. Your lies are obvious and you continue to do it. Say you say you are good to Connecticut but you actually are not.

5. You publicly say negative things about him. This makes him think you are going to harass him in public to get your ways instead of dealing with him directly in private.

6. You play the jealousy game. Jealousy game is manipulation. 

7. You are indirect. If you're indirect, he thinks you are manipulative.

8. You don't accept him in public. Your sexual reputation is more important than his feelings and reputation.

8. You try to make it look like he's the only one who's flirting with you where as you initiate the flirtation.

9. If you use sex to goad him and then ration sex. This makes him think you are going to use sex as a weapon, use it to get him to do stuff. 

10. If you withhold sex to punish him.

11. If you never think about anything but material things. You don't want to be an artist or a writer or a scientist or something that uses your mind. This makes him think you are average and your thinking is of low level. All you want is money and you are greedy.

11. He speaks to you you pretend like you don't hear or you act like it's no big deal. It makes him feel like you are not going to listen to him when he really needs you. Also that he's not important enough to you.

11. If you use other men against him. This puts him through severe trauma. Might scar him for life.

12. If you tell about your relationship problems to all your relatives and friends.

13. If all you do is criticize him and when you can't find something to criticize you make up stuff about him to criticize. This makes him think all you want from is his physical labor, you want to use him.

14. If you just flirt and not talk to him and don't let him talk to you about your relationship. He feels you don't care about him and the relationship. He feels you can't think straight because you're not showing good judgment in this regard.

15. You think it's ok to avoid him whenever you please.

16. If you are not flexible in doing things.

17. If you are controlling.

18. If you are socially more powerful than he is and you abuse it.

19. You never talk about how you feel about him. This makes him think you don't care about him.

20. If you continue to say or imply how incompetent he's despite his hard work.

Your Performance Level

How well you perform depends on three things: how helpful and resourceful your reference group is, how well you live and and how much resource you have. For example if you go to a bad school with sub standard education level, you might not be well spoken.