I wrote this long ago because many women ask "Why men leave without saying anything", or "Why men leave after sex", or "Why men cheat". I have tried to compile the reasons which I think might make men do those. This doesn't mean these are the only reasons or that these are true for everyone:
Why your man might cheat, or eject from your relationship suddenly without giving a notice or how is it justified leaving after sex . He might not be able to enunciate these. He might not even realize he feels this way because these are unconscious responses. He might not leave or cheat, but hold some of these stuff against you.
Some sage once said: The man doesn't cheat because he is lecherous, he cheats because his dreams are not met because of his partner, because he's emotionally abused, because he doesn't find peace while he's with his partner.
Here are are the reasons I compiled :
1. If you flirt but play hard to get. This makes him think you flip flop, prevaricate,and it makes him nervous. He gets stuck mentally because his thinking is linear and this is out of sequence for him. It also makes him think your thinking is not linear, not lucid/transparent. Also you are not educated because your thinking is not transparent enough, because you can't think straight.
2. If you flirt, but say 'no' when he asks you out. This makes him think you don't care about his feelings even though he opens up to you because after he's rejected he goes through trauma if there's feelings , he feels you're going to continue to not care about his feelings. This is also a out of sequence for him, confuses him further.
3. You are mean to him and you don't apologize to him after being mean. This makes him think you are a tyrant and you do not accept to your wrongs. This also makes him feel you don't care about his feelings. He thinks you won't deliver when he demands something that is justified for him to demand. If he dubs you as a tyrant, he thinks he can't change you in a way that would help him to achieve his lifelong dreams. Then there's no point in being with you because you are going to hamper his lifelong dreams.
4. Your lies are obvious and you continue to do it. Say you say you are good to Connecticut but you actually are not.
5. You publicly say negative things about him. This makes him think you are going to harass him in public to get your ways instead of dealing with him directly in private.
6. You play the jealousy game. Jealousy game is manipulation.
7. You are indirect. If you're indirect, he thinks you are manipulative.
8. You don't accept him in public. Your sexual reputation is more important than his feelings and reputation.
8. You try to make it look like he's the only one who's flirting with you where as you initiate the flirtation.
9. If you use sex to goad him and then ration sex. This makes him think you are going to use sex as a weapon, use it to get him to do stuff.
10. If you withhold sex to punish him.
11. If you never think about anything but material things. You don't want to be an artist or a writer or a scientist or something that uses your mind. This makes him think you are average and your thinking is of low level. All you want is money and you are greedy.
11. He speaks to you you pretend like you don't hear or you act like it's no big deal. It makes him feel like you are not going to listen to him when he really needs you. Also that he's not important enough to you.
11. If you use other men against him. This puts him through severe trauma. Might scar him for life.
12. If you tell about your relationship problems to all your relatives and friends.
13. If all you do is criticize him and when you can't find something to criticize you make up stuff about him to criticize. This makes him think all you want from is his physical labor, you want to use him.
14. If you just flirt and not talk to him and don't let him talk to you about your relationship. He feels you don't care about him and the relationship. He feels you can't think straight because you're not showing good judgment in this regard.
15. You think it's ok to avoid him whenever you please.
16. If you are not flexible in doing things.
17. If you are controlling.
18. If you are socially more powerful than he is and you abuse it.
19. You never talk about how you feel about him. This makes him think you don't care about him.
20. If you continue to say or imply how incompetent he's despite his hard work.
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