Most of the time when we don't make our move, it's usually because we fear society's sex shaming. We really don't want to be seen as the person who's making the sexual advance. So, don't try to make it look like only the member of the other sex, aka "the opposite sex"(I don't believe in the term "opposite sex", male and female are not "opposite"), is making the advance when you are equally responsible. If you do that, you are the one really doing the sex shaming to save yourself from being shamed. Your only way of looking good is to blame preemptively. Remember, both sides are always sex shamed. Why broach these matters? Because we do those unconsciously without realizing, both sex shaming and not making the move.
This really means we don't to want accept ourselves that we are attracted to random people because doing so would make us liable for making the move. Also, it would make us aware of the fact we are promiscuous, and we don't want to accept that we are, because we are programmed to think sex is a sinful act. In essence, we are sex shaming ourselves because we are unconsciously forced to conform, because we think sex is sin. Why should we learn to accept the fact that we are promiscuous by nature? Because repressing sex actually makes you want it more and harms you spiritually. Because sex is considered a sin, every time we make the move, we think we are doing something sinful. So, when we think it's a sin, we continue to sex shame ourselves. This manifests in hesitation and stopping ourselves every time we want to make the move, shows up in our body language. Also, we approach indirectly because approaching directly would mean we are doing something sinful overtly. If it's a sin, we continue to sex shame ourselves and others.
Next time, someone makes the move on you overcoming the social pressure, appreciate the effort, instead of sex shaming and making it look like only the person is initiating it.
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