Unfortunately, men are always taught or told to "make the move" on women even if women initiate the approach. It's not "manly" to not to make the move. If they can't "make the move" at the right moment, they bungle it. This sets up men for lots of rejection. How to solve this? Without fixing your inner game, without being the ideal man, without having high social status it is not advisable to "make the move". Before you can make the move, you have to fix many things.
Many times women are saying "no", or "later" but they are not completely rejecting. They come around when the time is "right". When they come around, that's not really a rejection. Other than that, how would you know when to "make the move" and not get rejected?
Rule number one, do not "make the move" unless you become the "dream man" in her eyes. You have to be a "prize", appear a "prize" before you approach. If your target is too good for you in your mind, there is a good chance you are going to get rejected by "making the move" too early. If you haven't created enough attraction to a total ten, do not ask out, "make the move". Before "making the move" ask yourself, are you her "dream man"? Are you too insecure around her? If you can't get over your insecurity, do not "make the move". Unless, you have enough "rapport" with her, do not "make the move". Do not think in sequence like, date, dinner first, then getting physical. Get physical before the date. Doesn't mean grope her, right off the bat. Start little, build it up. In pickup community this is known as "kino escalation", derived from "kinesthetic escalation".
Rule number two, keep in mind, most women would say "no", even if they want to go out with you. So, you might want to not be in dating frame of mind. Do something other than a date.
Rule number three, do not "make the move" if you don't feel the connection. DO NOT make the move even if you do feel the connection. What's the solution? Tease her.
Rule number four, do not feel like you have to make it "official", things has to be in sequence, do not wait for her permission. With enough rapport, you won't have to.
Rule number five, never ask her anything directly, do not express your desire directly. For example, do not ask her to wear pink lip gloss. Just ask her, "do you have pink lip gloss?" If she wears it on her on, it's on.
Rule number six, always have "plausible deniability". If she plays the jealousy game, show her that you are jealous indirectly. Don't say, "I don't want you to talk to Mr. X". Just go near her while she is near the guy, make up an excuse to isolate her, or make up an excuse to talk to the guy and isolate him. But don't reveal anything, while letting her know that you are jealous.
If the girl is very pretty, one in a million a "total ten", and if you perceive that you don't get hit on by such a girl all the time, you must have her, DO NOT stop flirting with other girls, don't fall in the scarcity mentality. This is very easy to fall in to if you haven't been getting laid for a long time. This is not to say that, you are going to play jealousy game, but you have the right to keep your option open because you don't know how the relationship is going to turn out, whether it's going to be long term thing. Never plan to make thing long term even if she is a "prize" because it might scare her off, because you don't know how she is, whether her interactions are respectful towards you or not. You should keep flirting with other girls just in case the "prize" one doesn't work out, to be out of the scarcity mentality. Psychologically, it's going to weaken you. Have many female friends before you start flirting with the total ten, platonic.
Do not use "like", "love", complimentary style talk in the beginning. Do not never compliment, compliment very little when necessary. Over compliment might get translated as sexual neediness.
Try to see if she is trying to use only her look.
Try to see if she is trying to get things by faking temper tantrum.
Do not reveal all your life to her, keep mystery.
Do not give her validation, unless she is 100%.
Avoid her, if she's uneducated.
Most women would fake being busy when asked to do something with you, it's just a thing they do to make you think you are not the center of her attention, even if you are, don't give her the chance.
Most women would test you, even after you date for a long time. One of the very first thing the throw at you is the "compliance test", how much you would comply. Their objective is to see how much they can get away with, how much then can get you to do. This would start by asking you simple favor, say "no". Make up an excuse to not to do it.
Even though the matter of "making the move" is subjective, keep this things in mind. Sometimes there is no way but make a move, like when both of you are on the train and you have to separate. In that ask for the number and don't ask her on a date as soon as you get the number. Take your time, build attraction. Screen her behaviors.
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