Because most people are either dominant or submissive, one of the married couples gets subjugated in any marriage.
Most people get married because they fear they might end up lonely, but marriage does not cure loneliness because marriage is not meant to cure loneliness. It is meant to procreate, to raise offspring, to fulfill a marital contracts. If you don’t fulfill what you signed in for, your marriage will be over. Even after you fulfill what you signed in for, that does not guarantee it would cure loneliness. Also, marriage does not guarantee a cure for loneliness because your spouse might leave you anytime
In most countries, marriage is a written contract just like a business contract. This means that the law is going to force you to stay in the marriage. If people were meant to stay together, there would be no such contract and law relating to that contract. If marriage really worked, you would not need such a contract or law.
You cannot show me one married couple where one or both of do not them cuckold.
Most marriage and their rules are defined by religious books, scriptures and applied to the marriage happening followed by the rules of a particular religion. This means it is only the religion’s demand, not the people’s.
You cannot show me one married couple where one or both of them are not emotionally abused or mentally tortured. Even after that, they can’t leave/divorce because they have to rear their child/children, because they have invested all their life savings, education, time for that marriage.
The cost of child-rearing a year is higher than a house in most places. The house itself takes most of the income their income, lifetime saving.
People get married to show society that they are not sleazeball or lecherous. But you cannot show me one married couple where one or both of them did not fornicate. If you are going to have extramarital sex, why marry at all? Sometimes, both of the couples know that they are having extramarital sex, but don’t say anything, act like nothing is going on. This is pretty common all over the world. This is because by nature the human is a polygamist. It is how our creator created us. Look at animals, they always have multiple sex partners. The human is also an animal. If you know, you are going to have sex with other people, then there is no point. To expect the animal not to be a polygamist is to expect it to go against its animalistic nature. If you do that you injure its mind(citation needed). By this logic, marriage is unnatural.
Now, let’s take a look look at the “kabinnama” tradition in Bangladesh where the husband has to agree to give a certain amount of money if the marriage breaks even if it's the women's fault. That implies PEOPLE KNOW before marriage, the marriage might not work. The guy might leave the girl anytime, so the “kabinnama” money is the girl's insurance money. There are systems like this all over the world. Indirectly people know that marriage might not work. The child support law or similar laws around the world indicates that people know at some point the marriage is going to break, not work, so the laws get created. Even before people get married this might destroy their lives, they don’t know if they can handle the problems that arise because of the marriage, they don’t know if they can raise the child right, they don’t know if they can handle the mental torture. They get married because everybody else does it because society puts implicit pressure because society expects you to stay married. This has been going on for so long people think that’s the way it is and people should get married. That’s the way it is. There are lots of people who do not get married, that’s not the way it is for them.
Lots of scientists are now proving men and women are NOT compatible because of their different brain structures. You may ask, why they seem compatible? Because of sex, affection, monetary reasons. But as far as biology is concerned, men and women are different on so many levels that they are not meant to live together. Before marriage came into existence men and women never lived together, they only procreated. Even if they did live together, they lived in a group no larger than 40, or in a tribe. Never just as a couple separated from the group. Marriage was only installed in the society to procreate, to make more humans.
All my childhood, I heard from my mom “Why were you born?”,” You are bad luck”. This is very common all over the world. I was beaten by her most of the time. Because she was not able to raise us, she always had to latch onto one of my uncles. My dad was not around. Children suffer in every marriage because of parents’ brawling, separation. Even where parents are not separated children suffer because of the economic situation. Because my dad was not around, my mom was scared to let us go into playgrounds fearing child theft/child abduction. As a result, I was cloistered till I was 13. It was like living in jail. Doctors say I can’t mingle with people because of this even at this stage of life now. Similar stories are not so uncommon around the world.The point is, the world is not good enough for a newborn. People always say life is hard because the human is weak to survive this world. It is pointless to bring another child knowing this. Because most parents can’t endure their children’s suffering, they steal, swindle, they kowtow to their bosses. They beg. I don’t want to bring a child to this world knowing that he’s going to suffer as much as I did, knowing that I have to go through all that. He might have a worse fate.
To provide housing for the child and to provide the cost of child-rearing, parents do the aforementioned immoral things. Both the price of housing and child-rearing are increasing which only means we have to or we will be forced to do immoral things. The cost of child-rearing a year is higher than a house in most places. The house itself takes most of the income their income, life-time saving.
Marriage shackles you. If you marry, you cannot do the things you want, like go around the world, get a higher degree, learn a musical instrument, or whatever else you want to do.
All your life savings, income go to support your family. I think that is a big waste. If the marriage does not work out, you are left with nothing.
The divorce rate around the world is getting higher every year. A lot of people are being raised without a parent or with a single parent(divorce statistics needed from around the world).
Because of inflation, currency devaluation the next generation is going to be poorer. I don’t want my child to live worse than I do because I already live in the worst condition.
Whenever a guy gets married, his relationship with his parents gets worse. The family breaks apart. The mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law always fight, no matter what.
After marriage, the guy or the girl has to end his social life. I don’t want to give that up. I can’t lose my freedom. Giving up social life causes depression.
Most mothers mentally torture their children. Statistics show mothers torture/mentally abuse children more than fathers. Also, mothers physically abuse children more. This scars the child for life.
Children are often used by women to get money from men whether they are married to those men or not. Because women know they can find men any time, they keep switching partners. This makes the child grow up in hostile environments because the child doesn't belong to the men that the women make physical relationships with. This also scars them for life.
Whether there is a divorce or a separation, the children end up living in a hostile environment.
Many times the men leave because they don’t get along with the women. This leaves the children live in a poor condition. Most places in the world don’t have a child support law. Even where there is a child support law, the children live poorly, with a single parent. These children never get to do normal things that children with parents get to do. They are not taken to playgrounds because the single parent is working. They don’t get to go on vacation because the single parent can’t afford it. Or the single parent's sexual partner does not want to pay enough for someone else’s children. These children often live a cloistered life. As a result, he never gets to play the sport like normal children do. This makes him an introvert. This also leaves them with no social skills for the rest of his life.
I can go on and on about why marriage does not work, but that would be too big, and I think you get my point.
