Why Parents Push Their Children Too Hard

Parents try to push their dreams, live their dreams through their children. They want their children to become what they couldn't become, so they push them too hard. The belief that parents discipline or push their children too hard might not be entirely true.

Observe Your Ego

On some level everyone thinks he's better than everybody else. They just don't realize it because it is unconscious and related to your ego and superego.

Perspectives Are Partial

No perspective is 100% complete, including this one. Plus, words don't convey everything.

More Skills Mean More Social Connections

If you have a skill, people are more attracted to you because you can sell your skill. So, the more skills you have the more connections you can make. If you have no social skill, that might mean you have no skill in other areas of life.

How Many People You Really Know In Your Whole Life

Heard this info said by a Relationship guru, on average people know 200 people in their whole lives.

Don't Be Positive or Negative.

Don't be positive Or negative. Weigh your options, tweak . Belief does not equal reality or fact.

Why Marriage Does Not Work

After the human was created, 6 million years ago, the marriage system only came into being 3000 years ago, or around the time when religions came into being. Since the creation of the human, for 5,997,000 years, there was no marriage! That means the marriage has only been around for a fraction of a time compared to the time the human existed on earth. This means the upper echelon of the society created the marriage system, to keep most of the women to themselves so that the lower echelon had fewer women. Even after these many years, the marriage system did not/does not work. Let me explain how.

Most people got married up until last century because most marriages was arranged. In other words, they were forced to get married. Arrange marriage still exists everywhere in the world.

Marriage was also created to keep a certain bloodline alive or to keep the social hierarchy alive. By arranging marriage only between families that have the same social status, it created the social hierarchy. Marriage is nothing but to keep the hierarchy alive. For example, rich people get married to rich or richer people.

Most people do not get married to the person they love. They can’t find their dream person. They settle for less. Most people can’t find true love. Most people can’t find a person whose soul is purified or sublimated.

The only reason people stay married to the same person is because of the children they bear. Not because of love. They endure emotional abuse because there is no love.

Because most people are either dominant or submissive, one of the married couples gets subjugated in any marriage. 

Most people get married because they fear they might end up lonely, but marriage does not cure loneliness because marriage is not meant to cure loneliness. It is meant to procreate, to raise offspring, to fulfill a marital contracts. If you don’t fulfill what you signed in for, your marriage will be over. Even after you fulfill what you signed in for, that does not guarantee it would cure loneliness. Also, marriage does not guarantee a cure for  loneliness because your spouse might leave you anytime

In most countries, marriage is a written contract just like a business contract. This means that the law is going to force you to stay in the marriage. If people were meant to stay together, there would be no such contract and law relating to that contract. If marriage really worked, you would not need such a contract or law.

You cannot show me one married couple where one or both of do not them cuckold.

Most marriage and their rules are defined by religious books, scriptures and applied to the marriage happening followed by the rules of a particular religion. This means it is only the religion’s demand, not the people’s.

You cannot show me one married couple where one or both of them are not emotionally abused or mentally tortured. Even after that, they can’t leave/divorce because they have to rear their child/children, because they have invested all their life savings, education, time for that marriage.

The cost of child-rearing a year is higher than a house in most places. The house itself takes most of the income their income, lifetime saving.

People get married to show society that they are not sleazeball or lecherous. But you cannot show me one married couple where one or both of them did not fornicate. If you are going to have extramarital sex, why marry at all? Sometimes, both of the couples know that they are having extramarital sex, but don’t say anything, act like nothing is going on. This is pretty common all over the world. This is because by nature the human is a polygamist. It is how our creator created us. Look at animals, they always have multiple sex partners. The human is also an animal. If you know, you are going to have sex with other people, then there is no point. To expect the animal not to be a polygamist is to expect it to go against its animalistic nature. If you do that you injure its mind(citation needed). By this logic, marriage is unnatural. 

Now, let’s take a look look at the “kabinnama” tradition in Bangladesh where the husband has to agree to give a certain amount of money if the marriage breaks even if it's the women's fault. That implies PEOPLE KNOW before marriage, the marriage might not work. The guy might leave the girl anytime, so the “kabinnama” money is the girl's insurance money. There are systems like this all over the world. Indirectly people know that marriage might not work. The child support law or similar laws around the world indicates that people know at some point the marriage is going to break, not work, so the laws get created. Even before people get married this might destroy their lives, they don’t know if they can handle the problems that arise because of the marriage, they don’t know if they can raise the child right, they don’t know if they can handle the mental torture. They get married because everybody else does it because society puts implicit pressure because society expects you to stay married. This has been going on for so long people think that’s the way it is and people should get married. That’s the way it is. There are lots of people who do not get married, that’s not the way it is for them. 

Lots of scientists are now proving men and women are NOT compatible because of their different brain structures. You may ask, why they seem compatible? Because of sex, affection, monetary reasons. But as far as biology is concerned, men and women are different on so many levels that they are not meant to live together. Before marriage came into existence men and women never lived together, they only procreated. Even if they did live together, they lived in a group no larger than 40, or in a tribe. Never just as a couple separated from the group. Marriage was only installed in the society to procreate, to make more humans.

All my childhood, I heard from my mom “Why were you born?”,” You are bad luck”. This is very common all over the world. I was beaten by her most of the time. Because she was not able to raise us, she always had to latch onto one of my uncles. My dad was not around.  Children suffer in every marriage because of parents’ brawling, separation. Even where parents are not separated children suffer because of the economic situation. Because my dad was not around, my mom was scared to let us go into playgrounds fearing child theft/child abduction. As a result, I was cloistered till I was 13. It was like living in jail. Doctors say I can’t mingle with people because of this even at this stage of life now. Similar stories are not so uncommon around the world.The point is, the world is not good enough for a newborn. People always say life is hard because the human is weak to survive this world. It is pointless to bring another child knowing this. Because most parents can’t endure their children’s suffering, they steal, swindle, they kowtow to their bosses. They beg. I don’t want to bring a child to this world knowing that he’s going to suffer as much as I did, knowing that I have to go through all that. He might have a worse fate.

To provide housing for the child and to provide the cost of child-rearing,  parents do the aforementioned immoral things. Both the price of housing and child-rearing are increasing which only means we have to or we will be forced to do immoral things. The cost of child-rearing a year is higher than a house in most places. The house itself takes most of the income their income, life-time saving.

Marriage shackles you. If you marry, you cannot do the things you want, like go around the world, get a higher degree, learn a musical instrument, or whatever else you want to do.

All your life savings, income go to support your family. I think that is a big waste. If the marriage does not work out, you are left with nothing. 

The divorce rate around the world is getting higher every year. A lot of people are being raised without a parent or with a single parent(divorce statistics needed from around the world).

Because of inflation, currency devaluation the next generation is going to be poorer. I don’t want my child to live worse than I do because I already live in the worst condition.

Whenever a guy gets married, his relationship with his parents gets worse. The family breaks apart. The mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law always fight, no matter what.

After marriage, the guy or the girl has to end his social life. I don’t want to give that up. I can’t lose my freedom. Giving up social life causes depression.

Most mothers mentally torture their children. Statistics show mothers torture/mentally abuse children more than fathers. Also, mothers physically abuse children more. This scars the child for life.

Children are often used by women to get money from men whether they are married to those men or not. Because women know they can find men any time, they keep switching partners. This makes the child grow up in hostile environments because the child doesn't belong to the men that the women make physical relationships with. This also scars them for life.

Whether there is a divorce or a separation, the children end up living in a hostile environment.

Many times the men leave because they don’t get along with the women. This leaves the children live in a poor condition. Most places in the world don’t have a child support law. Even where there is a child support law, the children live poorly, with a single parent. These children never get to do normal things that children with parents get to do. They are not taken to playgrounds because the single parent is working. They don’t get to go on vacation because the single parent can’t afford it. Or the single parent's sexual partner does not want to pay enough for someone else’s children. These children often live a cloistered life. As a result, he never gets to play the sport like normal children do. This makes him an introvert. This also leaves them with no social skills for the rest of his life.

I can go on and on about why marriage does not work, but that would be too big, and I think you get my point.

How to Get Into An Windows computer If You don’t Know The Password

If you want to get into your windows computer whether you know the password or you want to get into someone else’s computer and you don’t know the password, this tutorial will teach you how to get into the computers in both situations with step by step screenshots of the whole process.

First go to http://www.windowspasswordsrecovery.com/ and download the program . To open the files, in this case to extract to an USB memory stick or to a CD/DVD drive to create CD or DVD from the ISO file you need MagicISO or VirtualCloneDrive, both of which can be downloaded by clicking the highlighted names.  

IF you are using an USB stick, start Universal USB Installer that is in the downloaded folder. From the first dropdown menu, go to the very bottom, where it says try some other “Live Linux ISO” and select it. Select the ISO file that is in the downloaded folder. Then select your USB drive, it is usually “F:” drive or “removable drive” following with the drive’s name.  Remember, the purpose here is to create a bootable USB memory stick. Alternatively, If you are using CD/DVD drive, then choose the drive in this step.

Then press continue.

After creating the bootable USB stick you have to make sure the computer you are going to use it on,  has the boot sequence set to  boot from the USB device  or CD/DVD drive first, depending on which  bootable disk you make.  To do that, you have to go to the BIOS setup and change the boot sequence. Getting into bios setup is different for different manufacturers but they are similar. It is usually by hitting the F2 key before the windows logo start. After getting in to BIOS setting you should see an option to change the boot sequence.

After setting the boot sequence, boot your computer and if you do everything right, the password recovery should start. Choose the existing user name and click reset. Voila, you are done! Now restart/reboot the computer and start using it. It won't ask you for a password.

The Human Can't Control His Behavior

The Human Can't do the right thing even if he wants to.

Talent Is Overrated

Even the most talented person is not talented at everything. Even if he's most talented is something, his knowledge/expertise is partial. He knows parts of the whole puzzle, not the whole puzzle.

A Book That Inspired me

I have read lots of books for pleasure, for school and to gain knowledge. Some of them included biographies. As I was surfing the internet, I came across a biography book, and I have heard of this book before. I ordered it. After it arrived, I finished it before doing anything else. The book inspired me because it gave me an idea to help poor people the way I want, not because what it talks about became famous around the world. The Book is Dr. Muhammed Yunus’ “Banker To The Poor”.

A brief explanation of the content in the book, and how Dr. Yunus came about making the model which became famous around the world is necessary to explicate how it inspired me. Dr. Yunus met a poor, credit less woman while walking around the university, Chittagong University in Bangladesh, where he was teaching, who was embittered by the loan shark that was taking advantage of her. She explained to him how the loan shark took away all her money as interest, and how it was very hard to survive or to break even after selling the product that she made using the money from the loan shark. After hearing this, Dr. Yunus loan the money to her out of his own pocket. At that time, he didn't know anything about the woman’s financial background, nor was he trying to make a model out of it, nor did he know if the woman was going to give back the money that he has had loaned her. He did this for humanitarian reason. To his surprise, the women gave back the money, and told him she had made a profit. So, he asked her to make a list of the people who were also victims of the loan shark in the area. Dr. Yunus, the lady and his students made a list of 42 such people. He loaned all these people money which was equivalent to mere 27 dollar in 1976. To their surprise, all of them gave back the money. So, he experimented in a second village, and this worked there too. So, now he wanted to do it more and wanted to get the local bank involved. However, they refused to give loan to people without any credit and without any collateral. So, he made himself a guarantor and got the local bank to loan the money to people. After doing this in many villages, he was finally able to convince the Bangladesh Bank, the government owned bank, to provision him a special banking project of his own, which later became known as the Grameen Bank. Then he developed a model for it and gave it a formal look following all the traditional bank methodologies and started to create balance sheet for the bank. The Bangladesh Bank, The World Bank and many other organizations around the world gave money to start off the bank as charity.

Now, I am going to explain why and how the model works. When a person wants to loan, he has to meet few conditions. He must be able to make something that he can sell. He must find at least four other members doing the same or similar thing, and they must be living in the same vicinity of the bank so that the bank members can keep track of them. Every week they are to meet at the local bank to make a payment with interest. They are to meet there to talk about their problems and keep track of their income. If someone is not able to come up with the amount decided, group members help him anyway they can. Peer pressure helps them to generate the money before the meet. If the person can’t come up with the whole amount even after that, he’s given the option to pay whatever he can. He’s not denied loan even after he is not able to make a payment. Just the interest accrues. The main philosophy of Dr. Muhammed Yunus is people can’t be denied credit no matter what. The borrowers can’t hide because everybody knows them. Most people give up begging, and don’t depend on handouts after they join the bank because they know they can get money any time they want even if they defaulted. It is based on some trust, but Grameen bank has success rate of 97% when it comes to loan repayment, which traditional banks couldn’t even come close to. The interest and the principal that comes back to the bank, is given back as loan to the same people and newer people. So, the bank always generates income. So, if someone starts a Grameen bank somewhere, after getting the initial money as charity, at some point the bank become self-sustainable. The money then is owned by the borrowers or as known as Grameen Bank members. People feel pride knowing that this is not begging. It is their own money. They also make up the rules and regulations of the bank, or they make up a trustee board by electing members from the borrowers who make up the rules and regulations. The best thing about this is it can be started with little money, or the money can be raised locally.

This method inspired me to open a Hospital in Bangladesh by taking money from people in my village where modern healthcare facilities are not available, or healthcare is not affordable to poor people. I know I can get loan and charity from organizations using my connection. Most people usually give money if they know that a hospital is going to be open or for a philanthropic reason. I will also get money from the people who will be members/workers of the hospital. It will be owned by every worker instead of a single person so the rules and regulations will be developed by the members/workers. When my hospital become sustainable after selling healthcare for profit, I will give back the money to the people whom I loaned from. This inspired me because I know this way I can help people very easily, and this give people a chance to do what they want with dignity, without begging. 

You Should Always Do This

You should always learns something. This keeps the brain sharp and increases brain's plasticity. It makes more neural  connections. The more connections there are, the better your performance is. For example, a leader/captain of a sports team is also good at managing a business. The more skills and learning experiences you acquire, the better you are.

New Discovery Of An Old Quote

This quote is always in my mind, but I was never able to enunciate it. While I was reading the book "The Stars, My Destination" by Alfred Bester, I came across this, and thought that is exactly how I wanted to say it. The quote is :"Sensation is the root of all evil". Now I want to say, "Greed is the root of all evil".

Self Help Is Not Complete

Self-help is not complete without understanding human psychology and how the mind works. If you understand the mind, only then you can control it because most people can't control it.

Why/How People Get Addicted

Your brain is not only wired to protect you, it is also wired to protect you from feeling bad. In other words, it is always trying to make you feel good. So,when you are feeling depressed you are more susceptible to eat things that make you feel good because your brain unconsciously wants to make you feel good. That is how people get addicted to substances, eating, etc. This info is found in the book "The Willpower Instinct, Why It Matters, What Can You Do To Get More OF It" By Kelly McGonigal. 

A Great Invention

A great invention by a guy from my hometown,Chittagong...his invention sends signal to a train, to a mobile phone and to the nearest train station instantly if the train track is cut off ahead of the train. The train track itself is used to send the signal.

This is very important for Bangladesh because there politically hired goons cut tracks to derail the train, to take revenge to create pressure on an opposition party. This technology can be installed anywhere in the world. Watch the video here.

Something You Didn't Know About Owls

Apparently owls can swim! Here is the Youtube link where it shows a owl is swimming.

Do Not Give Away Free Stuff

The people/business who give away free stuff/ they think their products or themselves are not good enough to be accepted by people...so they give away free stuff or help to become popular. Because you are not improving yourself or your product, people will eventually leave you. If you or your product is good enough people will come to you. If you are good enough, people will come to you. You wouldn't have to go to them. 

Why Talking Less Is Better

Most of what you say is not accurate because you do it unconsciously and the talking patterns get created long time long time ago. Our mind can only think in pattern.

Your Mind Gives Up

The moment your mind perceive something to be unpleasant, discomforting, it automatically avoids it. The key is to persist.